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Writer's pictureEfuwa Tomety

Introspection: Reflection, Growth, and Evolving into Your Best Self

Updated: Apr 7, 2023



Have you ever had a moment of awakening, where you suddenly realized that your life up until that point had been a bit of a blur, and that the present moment was what really mattered? Those moments commonly known as "reality checks"?

When you reflect on everything you've experienced and been taught, the decisions you've made and why you made them, you may question whether it was all worth it. This phase of introspection often leads to a deeper understanding of what life really means to you, including the difference between good and bad, right and wrong, and your own limits and boundaries.


These may be familiar:

  • why am I only realising this now?

  • who am I?

  • do I want to leave a Legacy? What is a legacy anyway?

  • do I believe there is a God? Why?

  • what do I want to achieve most in life?

  • how am I going to achieve that?

  • What challenges am I facing in my character? How am I going to overcome them?


During this process of finding yourself, you begin to put everything you've learned to a test and challenge everything. This intentional process can lead to a realization that certain things that once seemed important, like test results, some of your relationships, and even anxieties, may not be as significant as you once thought.


Many, experience this awakening during major life experiences like milestone birthdays, moving out of their parents’ home, getting a career opportunity, marriage, conversations with friends, loss of a loved one, during church service or parenthood. Simply put, something like a light bulb moment brought about by their circumstances.


Once this has occurred, now comes the hard part:

  1. You have to decide who You want to be moving forward

  2. Decide what company you should keep to help you become the person you envision

  3. How do you come to terms with facing the fact that others you may have known for years may not be part of this journey or this person you envision (You).

  4. How are you going to become who you want to be without fear of judgement from others

  5. How will you overcome the fear or difficulty of letting go of what currently is to become who you want to be.

It's important to be patient with yourself during this process of self-discovery and to have confidence in your ability to overcome challenges and rise to the occasion. You may also need to reevaluate the company you keep and make tough decisions about who should be a part of your journey moving forward.

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